Don't Yell

Men that yell at women (and/or hit a woman) are pathetic wusses! It is absolutely inexcusable!

There is NO WAY a man can say he is loving his wife as Christ loved the church and also yell at his bride (see Ephesians 5:25-27 ... she’s supposed to be washed with our words – not tarnished with them! When she walks away she should do so without wrinkle or stain or blemish–period!)

And men, sometimes we yell when we don’t think we are yelling. When you first begin to raise your voice, communication will suffer.

Relationships require negotiations or resolution of conflicts. There is no question about whether a husband and wife will have conflict. The only question is how they will respond to conflict.

The process of conflict resolution demands that the couple exhibit certain communication skills. In order to resolve a conflict, each person must be both willing and able to carefully listen to the other person. Each person must strive to understand the position of the other. Also, each person -- after gaining an understanding of the other person's position -- must carefully consider that position. If this method is not used in communication, there may be manipulation, force, or other negative measures being used to attempt to resolve conflicts.

The process of conflict resolution also demands emotional maturity on the part of both individuals. Improper emotional expression will undoubtedly result in the breakdown of the conflict resolution process. Improper emoting can include a number of things such as: excessive yelling, screaming, or other exhibitions that may stop the resolution process early or threaten the other person into an agreement they do not wish to make; or crying and other non-aggressive emotions that may stop the resolution process early. Such behaviors are often used to shift the resolution in favor of the individual using these emotions. Any emotional expression that attempts to force or manipulate a resolution is never appropriate. Emotions that are used to control, intimidate, or hurt are also damaging to the resolution process.