These seven tips can improve the way you and your mate communicate. But be aware — most but not all men and women will share these characteristics. Switch up if you need to — that's normal, too!- Women are inclined to want "feeling" conversations, while men lean toward problem solving. Label the kind of conversation you expect to have.
- Women give and want to hear lots of details; men go for the bottom line.
- Men discuss topics such as sports, politics, and movies.
- When a woman says, "Nothing's wrong," something usually is. Husbands — offer to be a sympathetic listener when she's ready to talk.
- A husband wants to be part of the solution to a problem, not viewed as the problem.
- Men tend to dislike unsolicited advice — they presume their mate believes they can't handle things on their own.
- When a woman is upset and emotional, just listen. Attempting to offer an explanation will frequently be taken as invalidation.
[Adapted from One Good Year by Dr. David and Janet Congo (Cook Communications)]
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