Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Divorce Prevention


Couples counseling isn't just for unhappily married couples anymore, or longtime partners struggling to salvage their relationship.  These days, even people who've only been dating a few months are going to couples' therapy!  But why would a new couple want to go to therapy?

For starters, there's a whole generation of young adults who lived through their parents' divorces and they don't want to make the same mistakes.  Another factor is, these days, we hire pros for all sorts of things - we have personal trainers, fashion stylists, and life coaches.  So, some people see couple's counseling as an alternative to getting advice from friends, and they hire a pro to do it.  And it can also be especially helpful for young couples who've grown up texting and tweeting.  They have a harder time communicating face-to-face in every aspect of life - especially when it comes to their relationships.  That’s why we are seeing more young adults, and new couples, coming in for help.  So, how do you know if you need a counselor, or if you can work things out on your own?

  • Well, if the sizzle has temporarily fizzled, you don’t need therapy.  You just need to make your relationship a priority.  Today, couples can get so busy with work that they don’t make time for each other, so carving out time may fix the problem.  But if you haven’t been intimate in ages, we can help, because it could mean you've got bigger issues.
  • So, what if you’re bickering nonstop?  You need a therapist.  If small problems blow up into big fights, there are probably deeper issues to fix.
  • Finally, you might want to try therapy if you never fight.  If you turn away from your partner more than you turn toward them – it’s a sign that there’s distance between you.

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